Adjustments to Marriage(new version)

In life, we experience some great changes. Marriage is one of events that cause these changes. We face new environment through marriage and have to make adjustments to new environment whether they are hard or easy. Marital life can be different results according to adjustments. Then, what are adjustments to marriage that people especially women undergo?

We go through personal adjustments. It means that we are put in new position. We become a daughter-in-law as well as a wife and a member of newly enlarged family. We should manage all sorts of matters related to new family as well as housework such as dusting, washing, ironing, cooking, etc. for daily life.

Social adjustments are resulted also from new relationship. We make new relationship with people related to family-in-law, but, on the other hand, we can lose partially old relationship that we have made before marriage. We may attend relatives' wedding ceremonies by force soon after quarreling with our husband. But we may attend less gettogethers with old friends which we really want.

Emotional adjustments can be the most difficult for some people. We are under stress because of new duties or a sense of duty that we have to act and even think as other people expect as married women. Some women feel overwhelmed by pressure and responsibilities. Conflicts among family members may make women feel unhappy.

Professional adjustments are to change our attitude to the work. We may hesitate to have charge of task neccessary a heavy resposibility, a lot of time and energy. We may change our goal in the work place and move to another department. Of course, we can manage both work and home but we sometimes have unsatisfactory results at work and home. In some case, we are to choose one out of the two, home and work.

Mostly, these various adjustments occur at the same time. Because of hardship of adjustments, some couple have difficulties to last marital life. The adjustments aren't basically easy even to those who are well adapted, but, nevertheless they are essential to successful marital life. If we believe that the adjustments are to give up a part of myself in order to get better future with new family, we can accept them easier and more delightful than expected.