There are a lot of important adjustments that people must make when we get married. Also they consist of some types like personal, social, emotional, professional adjustments and so on.
First, personal adjustments are to put us into new position. For example, if we are women, we can be a daughter-in-law as well as a wife and that means to enlarge our family and to manage all sorts of matters related to new family. For another example, we should be responsible for housework like dusting, washing, ironing, cooking, etc. for daily life.
Second, social adjustments are resulted also from new relationship. We can make new relationship such as husband's friends and acquaintances, on the other hands, we can lose old relationship partially that we have made before marriage.
Third, emotional adjustments can be the most difficult for some people. We can be under stress for new duties or a sense of duty that we have to act and even think according to what other people expect as a married person. We may have the burden that we should get rid of the things that we enjoyed during being single.
Finally, professional adjustments are to change our attitude to the work. We may change our goal in the work place, and furthermore our work itself. Also in some case, we are to choose one of the two, home and work. Of course, we can manage both work and home but we can sometimes sit down at unsatisfactory results at work.
The adjustments are naturally very difficult even to those who are well adapted but they are essential to live successful marital life. If we believe that the adjustments are to give up a part of myself in order to get better future with new family, we can accept them easier than expected.
Monday, April 28, 2008
Adjustments to marriage(rewriting)
Sunday, April 27, 2008
Adjustments to marriage
There are a lot of important adjustments that people must make when we get married. Also they are consisted of some types like personal, social, emotional, professional adjustments and so on.
First, personal adjustments are to put us into new position. For example, if we are women, we can be a daughter-in-law as well as a wife and that means to enlarge our family and to manage all sorts of matters related to new family. For another example, we should be responsible for housework like dusting, washing, ironing, cooking, etc. for daily life.
Second, social adjustments are resulted also from new relations. We can make new relations such as husband's friends and acquaintances, on the other hands, we can lose past relations partially.
Third, emotional adjustments can be the most difficult for some people. We can get stress for new duties or a sense of duty that we have to act and even think according to what other people expect as a married person. We may have the burden that we should get rid of the things that we enjoyed during being single.
Finally, professional adjustments are to change our attitude to the work. We may change our goal in the work place, and furthermore our work itself. Also in some case, we are to choose one out of home and work. Of course, we can manage both work and home but we can sit down at poorly done results at work.
The adjustments are naturally very difficult even to those who are well adapted but they are essential to live successful marital life. If we believe that the adjustments are to give up a part of myself in order to get better future with new family, we can accept them easier than expected.
Saturday, April 26, 2008
Idioms
Idioms related to Time, War, Way, Seeing and No
Time Idioms
1. Don't watch TV anymore. It is a waste of time.
2. Can you spare me a few minutes with English assignment.
3. I work till late every weekdays so the time I spend with my daughter in the weekend is very precious to me.
4. We can't afford to spend any more time for shopping online. We have a lot of housework.
5. Let's start right now. We don't have plenty of time to finish this job.
War Idioms
1. We've gained ground in the sports beverage market. We will get number one sports beverage selling status in the world in 2010.
2. I believe that he won't accept the illegal pressure from high position. He is the strict person who refuse to give up without a fight.
3. I sometimes feel I am poor at English vocabulary. I need to reinforce the vocabulary.
4. After our company admitted some defauls of our product, we were bombarded with recall.
5. Prepare for the presentation of our plans very precisely. There will be a big battle between accounts department and us to get more budget.
Way Idioms
1. Let's study English to pave the way for our life.
2. We are too set in our ways to accept new compensation system.
3. Recently the govenment has recruited employees into high position from the private sector without the regualr test so we officials in low position have less worked our way to the top.
4. It is very difficult to have a husband who has it both ways to earn a lot of money and to have a lot of vacation.
5. I was late for the morning meeting due to drinking too much last night so my boss was angry. I'd better keep out of his way for the time being.
Seeing Idioms
1. I'm not very happy with your housework. I see. Today I will come back home early and finish it perfectly.
2. After all, he came to see it from my point of view.
3. Open your eyes. He is the only man that loves you.
4. Keep in your mind the useful maxim "Keep your eyes wide open before marriage, half shut afterwards".
5. I have seen through her lies but I still like her.
No Idioms
1. You didn't study hard. No wonder you failed the exam.
2. If you cheat your careers, there is no way that you will last your presidendy.
3. Finishing all homework by tomorrow is no joke.
4. Participating English course successfully is no picnic.
5. He is late for meeting again in the morning. No doubt he slept late yesterday.
Thursday, April 24, 2008
An International Language
English has become an important international language.
First, it is important in international communication. For example, airline pilots speak in English to communicate with other workers in the airplane or ground when they drive an international airplane. Otherwise, there must be serious accidents. For another example, world wide TV news or international newspapers are released in English so you can get more information if you can speak in English.
Second, English is important in business and trade. English is widely used in international business. Recently, English has become more important as the globalization has been fueled rapidly and the international economic organization such as World bank or the Common Market has been made to contribute to growth and control of the international business. Also owing to the increasing chances of international business such as trade negotiations or international currency exchange, the importance of English is creasing together.
Finally, English is important in international relations. If you want to work for Organization of American States, UN or World Court, excellent English skill is inevitable. Also when countries are concluding international treaties or diplomatic arrangements, English is used for official language. If the officials aren't good at English, the country can get worse results than they expect.
Nowadays, English is the key to success in some aspects. Whatever we do, we have to get the English skill in addition to our own field.
Wednesday, April 23, 2008
Annie's Mailbox(4/22)
One-time cheater?
Dear Annie: My husband and I are in our 40s. We have been married for 15 years and had a marriage most people would envy. We have no children.
My husband recently admitted to an indiscretion with a woman he has known for four years. This is not a woman he would ever take out in public. His pursuit of her was purely for sex. Once it happened, he never saw her again. (She confirmed this.) He only confessed because he developed a medical problem and was scared.
We are now separated and he is seeking counseling for self-esteem issues. He has begged and pleaded with me not to divorce him, but I feel as though I am married to a complete stranger. How could an intelligent, educated man who supposedly loves his wife actually go through with such an unspeakable act? Is it true "once a cheater, always a cheater"? Is there an explanation (other than midlife crisis) to assure me this was just a one-time experiment? -- Heartbroken in the South
Dear Heartbroken: We don't know why your husband felt the need to cheat, although therapy should help him find out. And we can't promise he won't do it again, but if therapy helps him, there is a possibility this was a one-time deal. The issue, as always, is trust. Which is why we recommend counseling for you, too. Marriage doesn't come with guarantees. Counseling will help you decide if you can live with the uncertainty. You have to do what lets you sleep at night.
애니에게 : 결혼한 지 15년된 40대인 우리부부는 타인의 부러움을 받는 결혼생활을 하였어요. 그러나 남편은 최근에 그의 외도를 인정했고 그녀는 단순히 섹스상대일뿐이었어요. 우리는 별거중이고 그는 자아존중에 대한 상담을 받고싶어해요. 그는 이혼하지 않을 것을 간청했지만 나는 완전히 타인과 함께 사는 기분이예요. 한번 부정을 저지르면 계속 그러하다라는 것이 사실인가요? 그것이 단한번의 실수였음을 확신하기 위한 다른 표현은 없는지요?
답변 : 우리는 왜 남편이 그런일을 저질렀는 지 모르고 그 일이 또 일어나지 않을 것을 약속할 수도 없습니다. 항상 문제는 신뢰입니다. 결혼에서 개런티하는 것은 없습니다. 확신이 없는 상태에서 살아야 하는지에 대한 상담을 받아보십시오. 마음편히 먹어야 합니다.
Monday, April 21, 2008
Sonway Solar Electronics(body)
Hello, I am Son-Mee Kwon and I am in charge of production department. I will now start Part Three, total sales. Our company has growed by more than 100% during the last 10 years. As you can see on this chart, the total sales of our company has increased from USD5,400,000 at 2 products in 1984 to USD11,000,000 at 3 products in 1994.
OK, that's all I wanted to say on Part Three and that brings me to the end of our presentation.
Sunday, April 20, 2008
문법
1. Even if : 가정법 cf)Even though
2. it, stuff, thing 등의 모호한 명사를 목적어로 잘 쓰지 않는다.(결론에서) - 대신 the factors, the ways, the reasons, the causes, the uses, the types 등 사용
3. severely : negative하고 못된 느낌(indicate that something bad or undesirable is grat of intense) -> with a discipline or strictly
4. but=yet
5. use question order after nor
6. A, B, or C
7. I was scared, yet also curious about the old lady.(o) the old lady를 앞 문장에 쓸 필요없음
8. We went shopping, but we didn't buy anything : compound sentence(, 씀)
We went shopping but did not buy anything. : simple sentence(, 안씀)
Formal / Informal expressions
Formal expressions.
Yes, I hoped you would give me a hand with the painting.
Pardon? Sorry?", "I'm sorry? "Excuse me?"
I was wondering if I could borrow a book for the evening
Would like you to get us the files.
Would you like to come up here on Sunday?
Please help yourselves to another drink.
Informal expressions.
Yes, I needed you to help me with the painting.
Be off with you!
What?", "You What?", "Eh?"
Go and get the file,
Come and have a drink, Son-mee.
Look, come to a party at my home tonight.
Thursday, April 17, 2008
Annie's Mail Box(4/11 Fri.)
Husband's girlfriend
Dear Annie: A few years ago, my husband, "Don," had an affair with a family friend. I discovered them kissing in the kitchen. I also found out Don's family knew about the affair. My sister-in-law actually provided a place for them to rendezvous.
My in-laws still welcome this woman and her husband into their homes. They are often invited to family functions, even though my in-laws know how painful it is for me. When she is around my husband, she tries to involve herself in his conversation. When he is with her, he acts like nothing ever happened, joking and laughing. Don and I have been to counseling, but it doesn't help when I see this Jezebel in his mother's house all the time.
I have tried to explain how uncomfortable this makes me, but Don says it's not his fault she is at his parents' when he visits his family. That's true. I also know his family can do what they want in their own home.
This woman is married, and her husband just sits back and says nothing. Don was not her first affair, nor her most recent. I don't think he's interested in picking up where he left off, so what do I do? -- Haunted by the Other Woman
Dear Haunted: Don needs to stay away from this woman, and if that means avoiding his family when she is there, so be it. He owes it to you not to treat the affair lightly and expect you to be chummy with a woman who has no respect for your marriage. He should inform his parents and siblings that when Jezebel is present, he will leave. And he should keep his word
몇 년 전, 남편 ‘돈’이 집안과 아는 여자와 외도를 하였는데, 시댁식구들도 이 사실을 알고 있었고 시누이는 사실 그들이 만나는 장소를 제공하기도 했다. 그런데 여전히 시댁에서는 그녀와의 관계를 유지하고 있고 때로는 가족행사에 초대하기도 하며, 이 일로 내가 얼마나 고통스러워하는 지도 알고 있다. 그 여자가 남편 곁에 있을 때 서로 얘기하고 과거 아무 일도 없었던 것처럼 농담하며 웃는다. 남편과 함께 상담도 받았지만 별 효과는 없었다. 나는 남편에게 이 사실을 설명하려고 했으나 남편은 지난 과거의 일을 들추어내는 것을 좋아하지 않으며, 식구들과 그 여자가 만나는 것은 자신의 잘못이 아닌 식구들의 문제라고 생각한다. 내가 어떻게 해야 하나?
남편이 그 여자와 멀리 떨어져있을 필요가 있고, 그것이 그녀가 본가에 있을 때 본가에 가지 않는 것을 의미한다. 남편은 그 여자와 아내가 잘 지내기를 바라지도 말고 과거를 가볍게 보지 않도록 해야 한다. 남편은 그 여자가 본가에 있을 때 거기를 떠날 것임을 알려야 하고, 또한 그의 말을 지켜야 한다.
Presentation English Vocabulary
8 English Vocabularies
Wednesday, April 16, 2008
peer feedback for Bos re:A person who influenced my ideas and education
1. writing by Bos
I want to tell about a person who has influenced my idea and my education. He is my supervising professor at the university in Korea.
He was born in 1960 as the youngest boy in his family. At that time his parents ①were old enough to raise him. When he talked about his parents it looked like he wanted to have ②youger parents. This is the only thing I've heard about ③his boy's life.
I met him when I was in Ph.D course at the graduate school in Seoul. At that time, he just came back to Korea from Canada where he got a doctor's degree. ④In those days first I met him, he was in post-doctorial course at the same university. But one year later, he became a professor and my supervising professor.
During my Ph.d years, he would give me a lots of ⑤courgement and advice for my future. Best ②encourgement giveny by him was as follows; "You are so smart that you can do whatever you want". By then, ⑦I was in hard time through my life I've ever had. Also ⑧he said if you meet three people who influenced your life, then you can make your life successful. Still now, whenever I have to make a decision I ask him to give his opinion.
In retrospect, I've already met one person who influenced my idea. Today, ⑨I will think about other people who influence my life. I am sure that I can have successful life as I want.
2. peer editing
The structure like introduction, conclusion and the sequence in your writing are good.
So I am pointing out only some mistakes in grammar, sexpressions and pellings. ①Were old enough to raise him means that they were old enough and they could raise him, so the phrase should be changed into "were too old to raise him" for negative meaning. The meaning of ③his boy's life looks like his son's life. In my opinion, his boyhood or his early days are more proper expressions. Also if you change '④In those days first I met him' into 'In those days when I met him first', it would be better. And normally, the superlative is put in front of the perfect tense, so the sentence of '⑦I was in hard time through my life I've ever had', is to be changed to 'I was in the hardest time(or one of the hardest times?) in my life I've ever had.
In ⑧if-clause, you mixed direct narration and indirect narration. So you should decide narration. "If you meet three people who influence your life, then you can make your life successful" or "if I met three people who influenced my life, then I could make my life successful" are more accrate.(but I'm not sure) Also, in '⑨I will think ~', it is more natural that will is deleted.
Here are the misspellings - younger for ②youger, encouragement given for ②encourgement giveny. And It is proper to use courage instead of ⑤courgement.
My Husband different from me(edited)
I would like to tell about my husband who is absolutely different from me about the attitude to the other sex.
In his twenties, he had a large acquaintance of the opposite sex. Before he married, he had many blind dates. He made friends with a couple of girls and fell in love with each of them. He had also the bravery to dash a girl looking in higher position than him. In addition, he didn't intend to hide his good feeling toward a girl and the fact that he was keeping company. He didn't feel shame after he was kicked out because he was serious and did his best. Even after he was left alone, he recovered from his pain of a broken heart very soon. There was no term that he didn't have a girlfriend.
Now he doesn't look regretful for his past. I am sometimes angry toward him and the socially generous mood for men's past but on the other hand, jealous of his experiences.
Tuesday, April 15, 2008
"my habitual activities in the past"(editied)
When I was an elementary school student, I was a really good girl.
I had a very good habit to start and finish my homework as soon as I returned home. Even though there were not my parents at home as they went out to work, and I waited for them outdoors, I would sit down on the ground and do my homework outside the house.
At that time, I would also like playing. After I finished my homework, I would go out and stay outside to play all day long. As I loved to play so much, my mom would call me several times for dinner. Sometimes I would not eat dinner in order to play.
If I think about present students that can't enjoy themselves to the full and can't study by themselves, I feel I would be happier than current students.
Monday, April 14, 2008
Sonway Solar Electronics(introduction)
Good morning. Ladies and gentleman. I am Son-Mee Kwon and responsible for the PR division in Sonway Solar Electronics. I am pleased to invite you to this meeting today.
Now I'd like to talk to you about the overview of our company for your judgment for new investment. My presentation consists of three parts. First is the history of our company starting in 1982, second, sales by 3products and finally, the comparison of total sales between in 1984 and 1994. I will be using the overhead projector and my presentation will take about 20minutes. After that, we will have the time for questions. I look forward to your interest in the presentation and your following comments on this. All right. We can begin by looking at the screen.
My Husband different from me
I would like to tell about my husband who is absolutely diffrent from me about the attitude to the other sex.
In his twenties, he had a large acquaintance of the opposite sex. Before he married, he had many blind datings. He made friends with a couple of girls and fell in love with each of them. He had also the bravery to dash a girl looking in higher position than him. In addition, he didn't intend to hide his good feeling toward a girl and the fact that he was keeping company. He didn't feel shame after he was kicked out because he was serious and did his best. Even after he was left alone, he recovered from his pain of a broken heart not so long. There was no term that he didn't have a girlfriend.
He doesn't look regretful for his past. I am sometimes angry toward him and the socially generous mood for men's past but sometimes jealous of his experiences.
Wednesday, April 9, 2008
my habitual activities in the past
When I was a elementary school student, I was a really good girl.
I had a very good habit to start and finish my homework as soon as I returned home. Eventhough my mom was outside and I couldn't come into my house, I would do my homework outside in front of the door with my bag in the ground.
After I finished my homework, I would go out and stay playing outside all day long. As I loved to play so much, my mom would call me several times for dinner. Sometimes I would not eat dinner in order to play.
If I think about present students that can't enjoy themselves to the full and can't study by themselves, I feel I would be happyer than current students.
Sunday, April 6, 2008
Second Foor Plan
This floor is a considerably large but looks a little stuffy due to short of space in the middle of the floor.
Thursday, April 3, 2008
1st Floor Plan
In the room, there are much furniture and it is antique.
Against the eastern wall, there are a long sofa and two beautiful pictures over the sofa. The sofa has two cushions on the either side.
In the left of the room, there is a big glass door of which the frame is white. We can see the calm scene through the door.
In the south of the room, there is a table. This is a little big for the room.
In the north of the room, there is a piece of furniture but I don't know the use of it.
I think each furniture seems good but it doesn't match well one another.
